Virtues of Singleness
Purity: The Lord has called every believer to Purity. So many times we mistake our natural innocence or sincerity with purity. They are totally different. Purity is being a virgin; undefiled, unspoiled in thoughts, word and deed (1 Corinthians 6:18). Although, the Lord may start with a believer through his/her innocence or sincerity, but there is a need to grow in RIGHTEOUSNESS. Several times, so many of us get carried away by lies, deceit and wiles from doctrines and happenings all around because of ignorance. We then appear innocent and admitting our ignorance sincerely. We can be sincere but sincerely wrong. It was recorded of Jesus in Luke chapter 2 verses 40 and 52 that he grew from childishness, self-acclaimed innocence and sincerity into knowing what is RIGHT. This is coming into PURITY- and it will definitely inform our thought pattern, keep our emotions on check and our bodies from fornication or adultery (Philippians 4:8).
Are you single?
‘’I am single’’.
Of course, this would be the response of most unmarried people when asked about their marital status. Some would reply gallantly while some would reply as if the reality of that status in their lives is a flu they want to quickly get rid of. Well, whichever it is, I throw this at you who are single: Does the fact that you are unmarried mean you are single? What if you are single, but not single? I am not trying to get us confused but to stir us up to view together what “Singleness” entails.
Allen handed the book over to her as she with undivided attention was engrossed in the laptop in front of her.
What is this? she asked, barely looking up at one of her closest buddy.
Take a look and stop acting all foreign. She shot him a sharp rebuking look and then flipped through the pages of the book he gave her with an almost nonchalant attitude. And…
‘’…See, I don’t do well with people not because I don’t want to but life experiences have made me wise, so I stay off! More so, I have found out that I am a melancholic and have a little bit of choleric in me, so I don’t butt into people’s lives; I let them live their lives while I live mine.”
The statement above was made in a conversation and the question that popped up in my mind was: ”How do you live then?” Really, living is beyond existing or surviving; it is being WHOLE and that entails relationship’
I was close by a queue one day and I overheard a conversation between two ladies(corps members):
‘I had to go and rent my own room so I could be far from any other corps member. I know myself; I am hot-tempered and I do not take nonsense. So it is better I stay on my own to avoid troubles and I can tell you I am doing fine without anyone”!
2 Corinthians 5:14 (AMP)
For the love of Christ controls and urges and impels us, because we are of the opinion and conviction that [if] One died for all, then all died;
We will never know we have the capacity to exhibit some traits that are out of course until we go through some challenges, have a change of environment or status, and meet certain set of people.
I came to the Northern part of Nigeria for the first time by NYSC mobilization as I was posted to Gusau, Zamfara state. Being a new feat for me, I was anticipating my stay there. I even had the vision of reaching out the gospel of Christ to the inhabitants as wisdom will teach me. Little did I know that my ambition was just borne out of enthusiasm and I will have encounters that will either prove the vision true or just a wish. After encountering the climatic and atmospheric conditions, recklessness and nonchalant attitude from Bike riders, exploitation and language barrier first hand, my energy was sapped and my anticipation became sour.
I developed an unidentified unpleasant emotion for the place and the inhabitants, that it started affecting my disposition towards my students and my work. I discovered it was my life that should do most of the preaching not even my mouth when the Lord asked me the question, ‘do you know you have the tendency to hate?’ I was shocked! So, I could hate?!
Before we encounter certain situations in our lives, we might have thought we could endure some things or that we could love unfailingly, and not be affected by anything no matter how bad. We evaluate ourselves most times by our immediate environment, experiences and achievements, thinking we have acquired the full measure of the Spirit but the measurement of God is totally different.
Isaiah 55:9 AMP: “For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are My ways higher than your ways and My thoughts than your thoughts”
Philippians 4:13, AMP
” I have strength for all things in Christ Who empowers me [I am ready for anything and equal to anything through Him Who infuses inner strength into me; I am self-sufficient in Christ’s sufficiency].”
Life’s journey is a great challenge that seeks to test our ability and agility to survive all hurdles, tasks, weather or circumstances. The first notion we must all set our mind on is the fact that life is a race and a pilgrimage. But we must also get it right at this point that life is not a competition; it is not a period to show that you are better than others. It is a strive to fulfill the individual task or mandate that the Lord has apportioned for every man. Life is all about culture, survival and fulfillment.
Fulfillment which is the essence of life hangs on the content of our culture, the way of life, and survival, which I define as the acts of life. However, the survival of any man rests on the shoulder of his culture (customs, traditions, beliefs and ideologies). Culture is the drive and strength for survival. Hence, in measuring man’s fulfillment, two questions must be asked. What does a man spend the whole of his life doing? What is his motivation and drive?